The little book of dating rules
While the book feels extremely old-fashioned, there were a few rules I could get behind; a few fundamental ideas that made sense to me and may potentially make me think twice in future dating situations. Conversely, “breaking rules” does not mean you’ll never find love and you’ll be single forever.
I guess the conclusion I can draw from my dating experiences…and this book…is that what it really comes down to is, there are no rules. So, for all my single ladies, let’s get back out there, shall we?
Dating is complicated, messy, confusing, exciting, fun, terrifying, uncomfortable, thrilling and a million other types of emotions, all at once. Friend #2 in the scenario above lent me the book after that long text debate.
My girlfriends and I spent some time debating if I should text HIM. She tends to lean toward the more aggressive side and believes that if you want something, including a man, you should go after it. Let me know when you’re free.” Friend #2 took the phone, horrified. A message that clearly expressed interest, yet left the ball in his court.
All eight feature original Ladybird artwork alongside brilliant, brand new text from the authors of the bestselling Framley Examiner and Bollocks to Alton Towers.
The other books in the series are: The Ladybird Book of Mindfulness The Ladybird Book of The Hangover The Ladybird Book of Sheds The Ladybird Book of The Hipster The Ladybird Book of the Mid-Life Crisis How it Works: The Husband How it Works: The Wife About the Author Jason Hazeley is the co-writer of The Framley Examiner and the best-selling Bollocks to Alton Towers.
I handed my phone over to Friend #1- she spent some time typing what appeared to be a message a little on the longer side; something to the effect of- “Hey! I had an awesome time last night and would love to see you again! Make this shorter.” I took back my phone and combined the advice of my two favorite ladies into a message I felt comfortable sending. A message that expressed interest but didn’t take things too far.
But I needed a little help crafting the message (come on ladies, don’t lie, you know you’ve done this, too).
In sub-140-character-speak, The Rules say (actual quote): “Treat him a little bit like the guy you don’t care for! But for a girl, a text from a cute guy is really special, like winning the lottery.” You’ll love The Rules if you appreciate this subtle nuance of gender behavior: “Men love to buy and sell companies as well as extreme sports like mountain climbing and bungee jumping, while women love to talk about their dates and watch romantic comedies.” Related story: Dating 'Rules' get social media reboot with tips for texting, tweets Most guys I know feel the same as Alan Goldsher, who has written about relationships for MSN and Good Men Project: “I'm a pragmatic guy, and I've always thought most dating rules are absurd, so my general vibe about ‘The Rules’ is along the lines of, “Are you f***ing kidding me? Have some basic etiquette,” said Marty Beckerman, an editor of MTV’s Guy Code Blog and the author of manly-man book “The Heming Way.” “If I've gotta work in the morning, I don't want a damn smiley-face text to wake me up at 2 a.m.
” Granted, some of them have merit: “Rule #8: Don’t answer texts or anything else after midnight.” Fair enough. You shouldn't be texting smiley faces anyway, you're an adult with dignity.” Elaborating on texting etiquette, Fein and Schneider say, “We support using abbreviations like TTYL or LOL, as these make you seem too busy to write full words and long sentences.” “Rule #4: Don’t ask guys out by text, Facebook, Gchat, or any other way.” From the book: “Asking them out destroys the chase and rarely works out ...
Not so, say the authors, who go a step further and command: “Rule #5: Don’t sit or stand next to a guy first or flirt with him first.” But not all guys are pick-up artists. The book reassures: “A shy guy will pretend he likes the pretzels that she is standing next to at a party.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating